You absolutely know right now what the next best thing you need to do for yourself. These are things that will make your life more fulfilling, easier, happier, and healthier. You may hear them as a quiet whisper or like an all out show stopping blow horn that is trying to get your attention. So what stops you from making even small changes? More than likely fear.
Fear can be a friend or foe.
Fear is a survival sense that helps you determine if danger is imminent. It serves you well when you listen to your instinct about people and situations we feel fear around. However, fear can keep you from your good when you replace it with cycling worry and anxiety; this is where you can become stopped in your tracks.
You may talk yourself out of making changes by believing that a change will harm you or will be too difficult. Some coping mechanisms that arise with fear is hiding our denying that creates a false sense of safety until that whisper or loud horn show up again. And it always will in some manner.
Facing fears helps you grow and realize your true potential. If it’s never tested, you may never know.
In her book Finding Your Own North Star, Martha Beck writes “you’ll realize that the difference between success and failure isn’t the absence of fear but the determination to pursue your heart’s desires no matter how scared you are.”
Stepping into change will create feelings of fear and excitement; they go together, hand in hand. Expect this, and fuel your fear with excitement of what the change may create. Imagine yourself one year from today looking back at the year behind you. What one small change can you begin to make that will make a difference? Decide to take smalls steps towards your future. This is where your personal growth will burst forth.
“Do you really want to look back on your life and see how wonderful it could have been had you not been afraid to live it?” Caroline Myss