Do you ever find yourself or your friends saying “I’m so busy” or “the schedule is booked solid”?
Busyness can be productive if it helps us reach the goals we have set. However, constantly being on the go or “doing”, does nothing for our inner world, which is what actually determines our outer world results.
Being busy can be a distraction. Being on purpose is living.
If you find yourself saying yes to too many things and then regretting it, your inner world has spoken; you don’t have to wait for your body or relationships to break down to get the message.
Try this quick exercise:
Make a list of the top 5 things that are important to you in living the life you desire and then compare your schedule to this list. Do the activities in your schedule feed what you truly want in your life? Or perhaps you’re trying to people please others in your life. If this is the case, you’re not really living your life, you’re living to avoid conflict.
Consider what you are willing to let go of. If you find yourself concerned with what other people will feel or think if you do this, then you are not living from your priorities or from your true authentic self. And the truth is, other people really don’t care! They are too busy focusing on their lives.
Organizational consultant and leadership authority Stephen Covey says this about saying no; “You have to decide what your highest priorities are and have the courage — pleasantly, smilingly, nonapologetically — to say ‘no’ to other things. And the way to do that is by having a bigger ‘yes’ burning inside”. That bigger yes is your list of priorities and your life. The more you say no, you create space for new ideas to germinate, for mental and emotional renewal, and for a new perspective. Saying no takes practice, yet the rewards are great. When you say no, you model this self care behavior for others, you create integrity with yourself, and you open yourself to the bigger yes, your life.