The driver seemed oblivious and in denial to the way the peaches were stacked behind him. He was taking a risk with these “peaches on the edge”.
On my way to my local farmer’s market I found myself behind this truck filled to the brim with ripe peaches on their way to the market. What I noticed was how the peaches were placed on the back of the truck – precariously! As I followed the truck, I watched carefully as the driver turned and stopped, wondering if a rogue peach would fall or jump off onto the roadway, or me.
- Do you have any peaches perched precariously on the edge in your life right now?
- Do you have a situation or something that requires your attention that you’re ignoring?
- Is there something you are unwilling to look at?
These are all roadblocks to you hearing the voice of your soul.
Why do we allow things to remain “on the edge” or deny them attention? The answer lies within.
When you pretend that something is not happening, this is a coping mechanism called denial. Coping mechanisms allow you to organize and cope with stress, conflict and trauma, and you need them…to a point. These mechanisms can develop into repeated behaviors that then become habits. If a coping mechanism becomes the habit of avoidance, you may miss out on some of the incoming goodness in your life.
If you experienced a lot of chaos in your childhood or teenage years, you also may be addicted to the feeling life being disorganized. Leaving for appointments late, paying your bills at the last minute, stacking papers and “stuff” in your house, are all ways of creating a low level of anxiety. Why would you create this energy? This may be your subconscious at work, keeping your life frenetic because it’s what you are used to. The subconscious follows patterns and unless you awaken and take charge, it will be in charge of you. The question is, do you want to change a pattern in your life? In order to change, the first step is to name it. The second step is to decide what you are willing to do about it and create a plan. Small steps work best so your subconscious can used to the idea.
I recently created a list that I keep pinned to my bulletin board at home with all BIG items that requires my attention. I call these items the “sharks”. Sharks loom beneath the surface and if you’re not paying attention they can sneak up and bite you. These are the items I know need to be addressed, worked on, or completed and yet, I found myself avoiding them. The problem with not addressing the “sharks” is that they remain under the surface, creating a low level anxiety hovering in the background. This blocks true inner peace and the voice of your soul. As I began taking small steps to address some of the big sharks, I checked in with my soul and this was the message; I felt cared for. As I took small, even tiny steps to address these items, I experienced a sense of inner peace.
“Set ‘Peace of Mind’ as your highest goal and organize your life around it.” ~ Brian Tracy
True self care is about you creating an environment where you feel cared for, by you. This process begins from within and seeking this on the outer from others is a detour that cannot fully fulfill your inner world. Commit to discovering your pattern and what may be keeping you from self care and you open to innumerable possibilities and hearing your soul with clarity.
Stay tuned for more on this subject as my follow up post will be addressing your inner protector (yes, you have one!) and how this part of you may be getting in your way of self care.