During our journey through life one thing remains constant; change.
I’m happy to announce that as of this June 2018, I made a change by moving my office. I’m in the same office park and in a new suite that is much quieter.
I wasn’t planning on moving my office at all. I had thought about a larger space where I could facilitate groups, however it was not top of mind. And then, in one week there were way too many noise disturbances and outside interruptions to my work with clients. I knew I had to make a change and move.
It was serendipitous that a therapist I had recently met purchased a suite in the same office complex and invited me to move into her brand new space. I was excited at first and then a voice surfaced that had me questioning my move saying: are you sure you want to go through all the trouble of moving?
This can happen when you embark on any change even when you know deep down that you’re doing the right thing.
So what is that voice, and where does it come from?
For me this voice of fear is my inner protector. She shows up when I’m making a change or trying on new behaviors.
“Look on every exit as being an entrance somewhere else.” Tom Stoppard
Every person has an inner protector. Protectors show up differently for every person and yet their goal is the same: protect at all costs, survive. What I know about all the inner protectors I’ve met over my years as a therapist is:
- They operate on an old operating system from the past
- They’re usually tired
- They’ve been operating alone
How does your inner protector show up? Getting to know your inner protector is an important part of healing and opens the door to wholeness; a feeling of centeredness and integration within. Clients that work with their inner protector report feeling empowered and able to make decisions with more clarity.
I addressed my fear by reminding myself that I can change, and then change again if I need to. This is not a significant change for me, but to my inner protector it felt huge! So no matter what the situation, from something small to something big like a crisis, acknowledging and caring for your inner protector can assist you in moving forward with fear as a sidekick.
If you’re feeling stuck in fear, cycling worries and can’t figure out what you’re feeling or why, you don’t have to do it alone. I’m available to assist you in identifying and knowing your inner protector and so you can life fully from your heart and soul. Contact me for an appointment to get started.