Have you ever shared your hopes and dreams with someone and met with naysaying negativity?
Have you left a conversation feeling bullied or diminished?
Take heart dear fellow soul traveler. There’s a way to navigate this journey by taking most excellent care of yourself and remaining kind and authentic. It’s not an either or situation – it’s both. We need both to live a balanced, healthy life.
When our boundaries are too open, we may give too much and then feel depleted, forget to edit what we say, or swallow our anger/hurt, all detrimental to ourselves and others.
On the other end of the spectrum, when we are overly protective of shining our souls, we may turn down the dimmer of our inner light and hide our talents, feelings, ideas from others. This can result in unlived dreams and feelings of depression or apathy.
How do you find the balance here? It’s a delicate dance.
Vulnerability and strength hold hands and when they dance together; you are able to express who you are and take care of yourself at the same time. We all have a built-in “inner protector”, and if you let her/him rise up to the occasion, you may be surprised at how empowered you will feel. Healthy communication is about speaking your truth from an “I” perspective, naming what you are experiencing, and then making a request if you need to. Hopefully you wouldn’t allow a child to be bullied if you witnessed it – you’d step in to help. The same is true for your tender dreams, your inner child and your soul. Honor your inner integrity and stand up for you if and when it’s required.
Watch for the people whose eyes light up when you talk about your dream. Those are the people you keep.” – Elizabeth Gilbert