Surrounded with boxes filled with sparkly happy holiday ornaments, multi colored strands of light, and garland, my holiday cheer slipped right up the chimney as I started to sound like the Grinch. The more I unpacked, the more I muttered on and on about how much work and detail is involved in holiday decorating and how my Sunday down time had disappeared in a puff of smoke. The more I muttered, the more crabby I became.
Being crabby is a signal that something has become amiss between me and my soul.
Crabbiness comes in many forms such as being edgy, sarcastic, frustrated, chronic complaining, irritability. If you’re not mindful crabbiness can move into full on anger, resentment and rage. So let’s stop and visit with the feeling of crabby and learn what it’s message is.
If you are feeling crabby, check in with yourself to see if any of the following might be true for you:
1) Self Care – You’ve put everyone else first on your list and let your exercise, eating well, planned relaxation, creativity, social time all be placed on the back burner.
2) Sleep & Rest – You haven’t been sleeping well or you haven’t scheduled quiet time to recharge. Whether you’re an introvert or extrovert, you require some quiet time to recharge your batteries.
3) Too Much Giving – What? But the holidays are about giving! Giving can bring a delightful feeling to your heart, however when giving is an obligation crabbiness can rear up to ask you the question; are you giving with love and appreciation? You may be, and #1 and #2 may be in play here as you are over tired and depleted.
4) Distractions – The phone rings, a text blings, an email pops up, the kids call, a friend is in need…all as you are attempting to focus on an activity or resting. The constant refocusing can cause crabbiness as you allow your personal boundary to erode with distractions.
5) Saying Yes and Meaning No – Your intuition and inner guidance inform you to say no and you ignore this wisdom and say yes anyway. Ignoring your intuition can cause crabbiness because you’re going against what you know is truth. An inner battle can begin here and end with depression and despair.
Cures for Crabbiness
1) Name Your Crabbiness – Determine what your crabbiness is about and state it outloud or to a friend or family member. The activity of naming lessens some of the power and charge the trigger has.
2) Plan Rest Time – People often lament they don’t have time to relax as there’s too much to “do”. However, just taking time to say that has taken up time! Studies have shown that even taking a short amount of time to meditate or pray during the day pays off with renewed energy for hours. So it’s really the difference between operating each day with a full tank and feeling centered and on purpose or trudging and pushing yourself to get through the day. What will you choose?
3) Get Back on Track with self care. Even if your schedule is off a bit during the holidays, you can still schedule in a workout, a walk, or eating well. All self care activities will feed your soul and you’ll have so much more to give when you are healthy.
4) Say No and mean it. You may feel guilt in the moment, be worried about what “they” think or feel ~ know this feeling will pass. When you follow your inner guidance you’ll ultimately feel at peace with your decision and everyone else will survive without you. You’ll have your inner integrity intact.
5) Give Where Your Heart Calls – Be mindful of why you give and what your expectations are in regards to receiving. If you give with an open heart and freely, your spirit will soar. If you’re giving because you feel obligated or you’re expected to, this is where resentment builds.
Crabbiness is all about boundaries. If you feel worn out, tired or are not setting proper boundaries with others feeling crabby may be the first sign you’re not connecting to your soul. Welcome crabbiness as a messenger that assists you in slowing down so you can hear your inner guidance. Then set a plan in place to restore your boundaries so you can move into your days with awareness creating what you want to experience.