When you’re ready to shift from conflict and disconnect to harmony and happiness in your partnership.
If the relationship with your partner is at a standstill and you can’t seem to communicate easily or move past an issue, couples counseling can help.
If you’re in the midst of a conflict in your relationship right now, it may seem difficult to imagine things getting better. It may seem hopeless that you’ll be able to work things through.
You may not be able to figure it out yourselves.
Counseling can help. When you’re in the middle of a down pour rain storm, it can be difficult to see or gain a clear perspective of where you are or where your heading. As your couples counselor my perspective is from outside the storm and I’m able to see what’s occurring and how to guide you to a safer, peaceful place.
I’ve counseled with couples that have experienced:
- Power struggles
- Disagreement over finances
- A total shut down in communication
- Lack of intimacy
Couples counseling works best when:
Each person is willing to be responsible for their feelings and actions.
Each person is engaged in talking and sharing during the session.
Any extramarital relationships that threaten the stability of the relationship are dissolved.
The desire to grow as a couple and as individuals is present.
You are both willing to put the time and investment into your relationship.
Couples Counseling Sessions ~ What to Expect
In my experience in working with couples, the time and investment is goal oriented, focused and short term. For best results, I recommend weekly appointments in the beginning as it’s all too easy to loose focus on the relationship as daily life demands can distract and delay progress. After we’ve established a firm foundation in our work together, we’ll begin to space out the appointments so you can implement and practice what you’ve learned through the counseling process.
Couples counseling is an investment in yourself and your relationship. The process assists you in identifying patterns that keep repeating in your life and in your relationships. If these patterns are not fully understood, you run a high risk that you’ll repeat theses in other relationships and in your life going forward. By working your issues and conflicts together you’ll not only get to know each other at a deeper, more intimate level, you’ll also gain an understanding and awareness of yourself. There’s personal power in this knowing.
I work with all couples: dating, married, living together, LBGTQ, or divorcing.
If you’re currently considering divorce, counseling can still be helpful. Hiring an attorney is an even more costly option than counseling. Couples counseling can help you discover if your relationship is salvageable and you can then decide with a clarity and a deep knowingness what direction you both want to go.
As a result of couples counseling, clients report that they’ve been able to:
- Hear, understand and acknowledge the other’s point of view.
- Create a new foundation and a commitment to the future of the relationship.
- Resolve conflicts much more quickly and easily.
- Increased intimacy and connection.
- Create a life plan that works for both partners.
- Ask for and communicate their needs.
- Regain love, passion and appreciation for each other.
- Have fun with each other.
- Feel secure and safe again.
- Have empathy for their partner.
- Express emotions in a healthy way.